Dance Practices!

…Are A LOTTTTT of fun!!

We started off with our dance choreography today and enjoyed every minute of it! It was in a dance studio and it was great having the giant mirrors to see ourselves in. The practice was early this morning, and it really put us in an upbeat mood for the rest of the day.

We go again tomorrow, and I have done my homework (practiced in my bedroom). Feels like the wedding really IS near now!

House hunting continued this weekend – seem to have narrowed down the search to a particular complex… let’s see what we end up with.

Till then… we’ll keep dancing 😀

Wedding Invites Designed!

After a LOT of revisions, it looks like we finally have the designs of the wedding invitations down.

The “bride’s side” cards have been designed entirely by my family and I, with A as the graphic designer. A and his family entirely designed the “boy’s side”invites.

This was accomplished by a lot of post dinner “meetings” around the dinner table. Poor A;; he would make changes to the cards as per me, only to change them again as per Mom, only to then change them as per Dad. It took a lot of patience but the end result is well worth it. My wedding invitations have the theme, or inspiration, of ‘haldi’ and ‘sindoor’.Some of the card inserts are bright yellow, others are a bright red, and we also have a mehendi green colour in there. Overall, the colours flow well together and it looks gorgeous.

All through this card design process, A was very cocky and kept saying watch what I do with my cards. Now that his invitations are complete, I can say the cockiness was justified. His are a beautiful combination of silver and royal blue with our names entwined as a crest. It truly is unique and I cannot wait to see them printed. I am so very glad to have such a talented fiance 😀

Now that the invites are a reality, it takes me back to our early days when I would write our names together at the back of my notebooks. It brings a smile to my face- at long last, those names are together for ever.

The Rings Are In!!

My engagement ring was chosen by A and I in December 2011. It was made to order and picked up by A this summer. He held on to it and proposed in July, which is when I fiiiiiinaaallllyyy had it on my hand. However, I am so scared I’ll wreck it, and so I have not worn the ring at all. It sits prettily in its box. I think I’ll only really start wearing it after our formal engagement ceremony a couple of days before the wedding. Till then, I am quite happy having it safe in its little box.

We picked out A’s ring this weekend. It looked fabulous on his hand, and the best part is that the rings match. In fact, when we came home and I put both of them together, they really were a pair!

Our ring shopping is unusual because it has been done entirely by us (unusual in terms of an Indian wedding where the whole family goes shopping). However, it has made the experience all that more personal and given us great memories.

There was a sweet romance to the event of choosing my ring- we knew it was the one when both of us went “wow” as soon as I tried it on, an there was romance to the event of finding his ring, where we made a set out of our rings.

The only thing left is the engraving of the rings- we’ll do that next week with a code word that we used all through high school that means “i love you”.

Another check mark off our list- another bunch of beautiful memories made. 🙂

99 days to go- house hunting on, dance choreography on, packing start

Now that we are in the double digits, the fact that we are getting married seems all the more real. The countdown is truly on now!
Things that we have been up to:
We started with the house hunt a couple of weeks ago. Met a real estate agent who showed us some pretty swanky condos, but I thought they were too small. So we’ll go for house hunting round 2 very soon- probably this weekend. I have to say, there is an element of unrealism to this whole experience. Always having lived under my parents roof…and now to live on my own is definitely a bittersweet idea. Stepping into a house and imagining where our stuff would go is a very very foreign feeling- and yet highly welcomed and anticipated. It’ll truly be our love nest… Just hope we find “the” condo soon!!

Apart from that, I met with a choreographer and figured out a plan for dance practices. We have an idea of performing to a medley of 3 songs on the Sagan ceremony. While speaking to the choreographer, i mentioned that A isnt overly excited about doing a performance since he thinks its a bit too cheesy. She said that all grooms are the same. They start off very hesitantly, but by the end, they are more into it than the bride! Lets hope that happens for us! I was proud of our song choices though- they were very uncommen. Practice starts next wednesday 🙂

And then there is the bane of my life – packing! I really need to get my act together and start with this. “stuff to keep”, “stuff to throw”, “stuff to take with me to the new house”, “stuff to take to India” and “stuff to leave here” (yes, im still keeping my bedroom closet in my parents house! Need the storage!). I have all the categories sorted out in my head… Its just the execution that is a problem. Planning on starting this weekend.

But the upside- honeymoon shopping!! With the summer sales on, I have stacked up a good clothes collection 🙂 i have all the basics- tiny skirts, dresses, tops, and the not so basics- printed pants (which i looooove btw!!) so it should be good. Just need to get swimwear now- bikini shopping soon:)

Hopefully I’ll get things checked off my list soon and be a calm bride… Here’s hoping!

The Tale of the Wedding Invite

It is a good time for wedding invitations – never before has there been more focus on this (relatively) previously ignored area of weddings. This is the tale of wedding invites in my family.

A Generation Ago

My parents’ wedding cards are preserved in their wedding album. They had two – one from the “boy’s” side and one from the “girls” side. (Awww – Mom and Dad as boy-girl… too cute!)

Both the cards were very similar, and likely reflect the times that those were – simple. So simple, that their design was not even the traditional “cover-and-inside” type, but more like placards. Elegant, yes – both were basic cream coloured, with some fancy lettering, and no unnecessary words – they even had the bus route numbers printed on them, for those with no cars.

Those were cards that got the job done. They were created for one purpose only – to tell the guest where to reach, and when. They were then easily incorporated into albums and preserved.

When asked, my parents said they had no say in the designing of the invites – indeed, there was no designing. Their parents just took care of it, and that’s that. Mom even said that she was shy to take a peek at her card! She brought one into her room, shut the door and then had a good look. Imagine that!

A Generation Ahead

And here we are, with my demands of a ‘different’ invitation card. It’s not that I want to splurge a ton of money on the invites – it’s just that weddings have evolved since the 1980’s. Now, an invite sets the tone of the wedding; it gives you a glimpse of what is to be, it promises colour, spirituality, even sensuality.

And keeping that in mind, I did not wish my invite to be a run-of-the-mill one. It has been designed, and awaits printing –  it’s  a beautiful box in pink, with the bridal couple’s initials entwined on the cover. The actual card is inside the box, along with traditional Indian sweets. The card is a booklet that holds separate invites to each event – each with a different colour and theme. It is gorgeous and words cannot do it justice. I will put up a picture once it is ready.

However, I can take zero credit for this beautiful design. My Dad is always one step ahead of me, and this is all his doing. I guess you know what to expect when you bring up a wedding-obsessed daughter. He may complain about the fact that this is sheer waste, but he will have it done come what may.

My only problem – how will we preserve it? It cannot be incorporated into our album – looks like we’ll have this little box on some shelf somewhere forever.

Maybe the simple card isn’t a bad idea after all…

Times do change, and this is the journey of the wedding invite – from simple to extravagant, from one generation to the other, with love.

Below are a couple of designs I saw, and liked:


Countdown: 5 months – The evolution of the Guest lists

The reason Indian weddings are considered ‘big’ is that they are just that – BIG. Big  on bling, big on food, big on the alcohol, on the dancing – and big on the guest list.

The Guest list is one of those wedding planning tasks that is not glamorous at all – busting your brain to try and figure out if your Dad’s second cousin should be invited is not all that fun. (The answer to that, by the way – is yes, so the cousin AND his family are invited.)

Ever since the wedding date was finalized, which was in November 2011, there have been innumerable versions of this guest list. It has morphed from a rough jot-down of names on a scrap piece of paper to beautifully designed, colour coordinated excel sheets, that clearly indicate how many guests are to be invited to each event.

I take this evolution to be a confirmation that the wedding is indeed getting closer. I expect this excel sheet to further evolve – my darling Mother is Master of the Excel!

But coming back to the guest lists – it is a trickier task than I had taken it to be. Somehow, the straightforward, clean lines of excel transform into this churning web of relationships and behavior. The entire extended family’s’ inter-personal dynamics come to the fore when planning the list – it might be fun if you are in the mood to gossip, but not all that fun when you are in the mood to FINISH THE LIST ALREADY!

Things that regularly came up in discussion amongst my family while planning the list:

  1. If we invite an entire family, will they ALL come, or leave some people at home?
  2. If we don’t invite so-and-so Aunt to one of the events, will the other invited Aunt call her to gloat?
  3. What will we tell so-and-so Aunt if she asks why she wasn’t invited (yes, I can totally picture her asking that – angrily!)

… and so it goes on.

We are yet to finalize this list – and on and on it morphs.

It’s a crazy experience to say in the least – In the end, I always give up and leave it to Mom to decide. Even a Bridezilla needs rest! So until the next version of the list is printed – this time even more beautiful than before, I will not worry about it. The list WILL be finalized one of these days!

P.S – I think I know what the solution to these problems will end up being: Just invite everyone to everything and hope they don’t ALL show up to the pre-wedding events! (as if!)