99 days to go- house hunting on, dance choreography on, packing start

Now that we are in the double digits, the fact that we are getting married seems all the more real. The countdown is truly on now!
Things that we have been up to:
We started with the house hunt a couple of weeks ago. Met a real estate agent who showed us some pretty swanky condos, but I thought they were too small. So we’ll go for house hunting round 2 very soon- probably this weekend. I have to say, there is an element of unrealism to this whole experience. Always having lived under my parents roof…and now to live on my own is definitely a bittersweet idea. Stepping into a house and imagining where our stuff would go is a very very foreign feeling- and yet highly welcomed and anticipated. It’ll truly be our love nest… Just hope we find “the” condo soon!!

Apart from that, I met with a choreographer and figured out a plan for dance practices. We have an idea of performing to a medley of 3 songs on the Sagan ceremony. While speaking to the choreographer, i mentioned that A isnt overly excited about doing a performance since he thinks its a bit too cheesy. She said that all grooms are the same. They start off very hesitantly, but by the end, they are more into it than the bride! Lets hope that happens for us! I was proud of our song choices though- they were very uncommen. Practice starts next wednesday 🙂

And then there is the bane of my life – packing! I really need to get my act together and start with this. “stuff to keep”, “stuff to throw”, “stuff to take with me to the new house”, “stuff to take to India” and “stuff to leave here” (yes, im still keeping my bedroom closet in my parents house! Need the storage!). I have all the categories sorted out in my head… Its just the execution that is a problem. Planning on starting this weekend.

But the upside- honeymoon shopping!! With the summer sales on, I have stacked up a good clothes collection 🙂 i have all the basics- tiny skirts, dresses, tops, and the not so basics- printed pants (which i looooove btw!!) so it should be good. Just need to get swimwear now- bikini shopping soon:)

Hopefully I’ll get things checked off my list soon and be a calm bride… Here’s hoping!

Countdown: 5 months – The evolution of the Guest lists

The reason Indian weddings are considered ‘big’ is that they are just that – BIG. Big  on bling, big on food, big on the alcohol, on the dancing – and big on the guest list.

The Guest list is one of those wedding planning tasks that is not glamorous at all – busting your brain to try and figure out if your Dad’s second cousin should be invited is not all that fun. (The answer to that, by the way – is yes, so the cousin AND his family are invited.)

Ever since the wedding date was finalized, which was in November 2011, there have been innumerable versions of this guest list. It has morphed from a rough jot-down of names on a scrap piece of paper to beautifully designed, colour coordinated excel sheets, that clearly indicate how many guests are to be invited to each event.

I take this evolution to be a confirmation that the wedding is indeed getting closer. I expect this excel sheet to further evolve – my darling Mother is Master of the Excel!

But coming back to the guest lists – it is a trickier task than I had taken it to be. Somehow, the straightforward, clean lines of excel transform into this churning web of relationships and behavior. The entire extended family’s’ inter-personal dynamics come to the fore when planning the list – it might be fun if you are in the mood to gossip, but not all that fun when you are in the mood to FINISH THE LIST ALREADY!

Things that regularly came up in discussion amongst my family while planning the list:

  1. If we invite an entire family, will they ALL come, or leave some people at home?
  2. If we don’t invite so-and-so Aunt to one of the events, will the other invited Aunt call her to gloat?
  3. What will we tell so-and-so Aunt if she asks why she wasn’t invited (yes, I can totally picture her asking that – angrily!)

… and so it goes on.

We are yet to finalize this list – and on and on it morphs.

It’s a crazy experience to say in the least – In the end, I always give up and leave it to Mom to decide. Even a Bridezilla needs rest! So until the next version of the list is printed – this time even more beautiful than before, I will not worry about it. The list WILL be finalized one of these days!

P.S – I think I know what the solution to these problems will end up being: Just invite everyone to everything and hope they don’t ALL show up to the pre-wedding events! (as if!)