Toasts?

Question for all brides out there:

I really want to take a moment and get on stage on my Mehendi function to address my family and friends that will be there. Toasting is an integral part of weddings here, and I find it really touching. I would looooove to toast my family and to acknowledge all that they have done for me over the years. It truly does take a village to raise a child.

2 questions:

1) How appropriate will this be for a Delhi wedding (read noisy and drunk – will people even stop to listen?)

2) How do you do this without crying?

Showers of Happiness

This last weekend was a super busy one!! I was busy all day Saturday with a work event and party, and so when Sunday dawned, I was content to just lie in bed. Not to be – my brother dragged me out of the house on the dumbest of excuses, and I was out all morning. We finally came home at about 1 30 PM.

I opened the door, and everything was decorated in pink – pink balloons, streamers. And a room full of women wearing all shades of pink yelling “Surprise”!

I was standing in the middle of my surprise bridal shower.

I remember the silly grin on my face never left me, and I was just so bewildered by it all! It was a super duper party arranged by my Mom and a couple of friends. The theme was pink butterfly, and so once I got over the shock, I was sent to my room to change into something pink.

All my clothes were packed, so I dragged out the first pink thing I saw – a brand new fuchsia long top. Perfect. I teamed that with tights and headed back down. Showers are silly affairs, but a lot of fun. I was made to wear a tiara and sit in the center of the room. I was blushing so much that I must have matched the colour of my shirt.

As is the custom at showers, there were a lot of games, and they were sooooo much fun!! We had the “dress made of toilet paper” one. I chose the winner for that, and it was the team that gave their bride model a pretty dress AND a pretty toilet paper hairband. Then there was the “advice”. All the women had written down their advice on little slips of paper and I had to read them aloud. I was so embarrassed – there was stuff like “buy a blanket one size bigger than your bed”.

The girls had emailed ‘A’ a bunch of questions about his likes, dislikes etc, and I was asked those same questions. The guests bet on how many I would get right. I actually got 7 right, and 3 women won the prize. The ones I got wrong? “What would A want you to wear on the 1st night?” Now – even if I knew, I wouldn’t answer because I was sooooo embarassed!! Another wrong answer question was what he is scared of…. I wasn’t sure. The answer was “losing you”. That really was special!

There was this one game where a ball is placed in a pair of pantyhose, and tied it to the waist of the ‘player’, who is blindfolded. They then, have to knock over a bottle kept on a table using only the contraption around their waist. Needless to say, it brought up a whole lot of inappropriate comments, and if a lady knocked the bottle down on the first try, everyone else would giggle and say that she had a lot of “experience”. It’s a marvel how dignified Aunties can turn into giggling schoolgirls, while the real schoolgirls stare at them open mouthed!

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I chose the best dressed girl and there was a present for her, and then I opened up all my presents –  got a bunch of useful things and some cash. 🙂

There was also the most delicious and pretty cake ever – I did not want to cut it!! And then I did not want to stop eating it!!

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Lunch was followed by sangeet and a night of dancing. Liquor flowed in the evening, and by dinner time, the party was rocking.

This was my first wedding event, and what an event. A beautiful surprise, tons of blessings coming my way, and crazy dancing. What more can a girl ask for – my Mom is the best for arranging this ❤ ❤

And so it begins…. 😀

Wedding Videos I LOVE <3

I wanted to share the videos that I really really love, so here goes:

First up is this one: It’s a Sikh wedding in Toronto. What I love about this one is the back and forth between all the different wedding events, and the fact that it is all centered by this funny story about the guy’s side coming to the girl’s house after the wedding for the official vidaai. The sisters block his path and demand a ransom to release his new wife to him. I must have watched this like a hundred times, and have even hammered it into my videographer’s head that this is what I want! Hopefully, he’ll deliver. Watch and smile:

This is another one that I really liked:

If you haven’t already guessed, I am a big fan of Film-Style Weddings, and they would have been my videographer of choice had the wedding been here in Toronto.

And here is an awesome proposal! This one went viral last November and I’m sure everyone has seen it but nonetheless: Prem proposes to Manisha in Vegas. Love it!

Here’s hoping that our pictures and video are as good as these! … Fingers and toes tightly crossed!

Emptying out my Closet

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I have been putting off packing for the longest time. However, Sunday dawned bright and shiny, and there was no reason to NOT give into my conscience, and finally dig into the task, and so that’s exactly what I did. 

One of the rooms in our house has been completely overtaken by suitcases of every size and colour. And they are ALL half-full. Looks like a complete mess, but there really is nothing to be done about it. It’ll only be wrapped up 3 hours before the flight – I know from experience. A couple of the suitcases are for me to take to the new house (immediate winter wardrobe for when we’re back), and the rest is stuff to take to Delhi. 

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So I finally opened up my overflowing closet to pack and purge. Thankfully I did a LOT of both, and I feel so good!! I fired up my Mac and watched back to back TV shows as I worked – really helped me with my pace. (Though I suspect my Mom’s yelling only helped with the speed!).

By evening I was standing in front of an empty closet.

And the tears just came.

The sudden realization that I am PACKING – not to leave on a holiday, but to LEAVE my home came like a huge thump in my chest. Standing in the middle of my room with my stuff all around me suddenly felt like standing in a cocoon with my parents’ love wrapped all around me. To be leaving all this… it can be so hard.

I found a huge stash of greeting cards in that closet, and I couldn’t resist a peek. There were my birthday cards from my family since forever, stubs from a movie we had gone to see , receipts for the earrings I got on my 16th birthday from Mom Dad. The first iPhone that Mom Dad got after I complained that I really really really need one, a note by my baby brother in his childish scrawl, pictures of a family holiday… A lifetime of memories – and I just really want to hang on at this point. Just want to pause these moments … want to be a just a daughter for some more time.

 Realizing that I will no longer be at the dinner table every night, nor will I be hanging around Mom in the kitchen, or lounging with Dad on the terrace or yakking with my brother in his room is a sobering one.

It is a testament to how much I love A that I am willing to leave this – couldn’t have done it for another guy. 

We went shopping this weekend and I came home with a ton of bedding. On the way out, my Mom stopped to look at a dress – it must have been for a 12 year old girl. She turned to me and said my little girl was in these dresses just yesterday – you’ve grown up too fast. It took all my self control to walk out of that mall dry eyed. 

Weddings are emotional, and doubly so for the bride and her family. It is exciting to look forward to the life ahead, but equally hard to leave behind everything else. Such is life. 

However, on a brighter note – we got the condo we wanted 😀

The real estate agent called in the evening to give me the news and it was very happily received. After the sad day I’d had, here was something really awesome! So the condo is on the 23rd floor with a gorgeous view. It was the master bedroom that sold me on it. It has an entire wall of floor to ceiling glass, and the view is amazing. There is a stream and trees right under your feet – and twinkling city lights all the way to the horizon.  That REALLY perked me up and I surveyed my packing again to check what will be sent to the new house. 

Picked up the box of cards again and this time I saw others – A’s first ever card to me – a “Sorry” one (yes we had gotten off on the wrong foot back then!), anniversary cards, movie tickets, framed pictures, folded up Toblerone chocolate boxes he’d gotten for me from Singapore….. just a whole bunch of stuff. It made me smile and I was thankful at that moment that I am only moving from one loving home to another. My family will forever be a part of me and no one can change that. But this is also the time to give A and I our space, to give us our wings. 

This is a bittersweet ride for sure. If there is one thing I learnt today it is that I will need waterproof mascara for the wedding. It’s going to be a weepy vidaai!

Jewellery for the Bride – Mehendi

My thoughts have recently turned towards my Mehendi / Cocktail function. I have decided that I will get my mehendi done in peace in the afternoon at home. I want the quiet reflection of having my henna applied in the house I was born in, without 300 people around me. All I really want is my Mom for that emotional time – which cannot happen if the mehendi is being done at the party. Also, this way, my mehendi will have dried and I can actually enjoy the party at night. 

And so, as I was searching online for mehendi lehenga ideas, floral jewellry caught my eye. This tradition of the bride-to-be being dressed up in floral jewellry for the mehendi is very common in many families – not in mine though. Tradition aside – I think it’s a great idea. Between all the functions where the bride is sparkling from head to foot, the mehendi is a time to look fresh. 

I recently went to a friend’s mehendi, and she had worn floral jewellry. However, she had not really dressed it up, so her sister who had on actual jewellry looked more dolled up than the bride. This of course raised flags in my head, because by then I was already checking out floral jewellry, and kind of falling in love with the idea.

It got me wondering if floral jewellery could actually be carried off well, and look “heavy”. A short search on google, and the answer was a yes. The trick it to use small flowers – and lots of them. See the pictures below for examples. These are taken off the internet but are my inspiration:

Here is an example of the jewellery looking “heavy”. I really like the maangtikka and the earrings.

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This is a tad much in my opinion, but it does not take away from the beauty of the jewellery itself

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Love the ‘jhumka’ effect of the flowers here

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And here the pearls go well with the flowers

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Love the effect that the flowers are bringing to the girls face here

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The bracelet below looks like a corsage, but it is super pretty!

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Here is one where the colour red is very prevalent. Another good one, though not my favorite:

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You will have to look closely at the jewellery of this bride. I really like the fine craftsmanship of it

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And this picture – she even has a floral kamarbandh – love it!

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Esha Deol recently got married. Here is her picture on her mehendi. I am not a fan of the floral maangtikka, but I love the necklace that she wears.

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These are pictures of Aishwarya’s mehendi. She did the floral jewellry thing very very well. I love the fact that they used buds instead of flowers.

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Look closely at the flowers behind her on the back of the sofa she is sitting on – see all the tiny flowers? That was actually a floral chunni!

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And here is the big question: Does anyone know of vendors who do such work in Delhi??

xoxo

 

Home & Hearth

This Labour Day long weekend was special. With mere weeks left to the wedding, I finally got on with some serious shopping. I only window shopped, but that’s half the battle won – once you know what you want, it makes it way easier to chase it and purchase it. 

So this weekend, I was not shopping for dresses, but rather for cookware 🙂 (Apparently, it’s not ALL about the wedding – we need to deal with the marriage part of it too!) And with marriage comes… a beautiful kitchen (hopefully!! the search is still on, though there are many condos that I am in love with!).

Though I do not cook very often, I find myself being very picky with what I want for the kitchen. A big reason is that the condos are all open concept. That means that the kitchen is not a separate part of the house, hidden away, but is rather on full display throughout the house. There are no walls to shelter it, and that is a good thing because the kitchens we have seen are GORGEOUS – black stone counters and stainless steel appliances with accent lighting – looks very glamorous. The downside – we’ll have to keep it clean always.

So coming back to the trips to the mall this weekend: I checked out the many ranges of cookware that are out there. High end, medium end. I have decided not to go for the non-stick variety of cookware. It really is unhealthy and you really should not be putting those chemicals into your body – plus the coating comes off, and it looks horrible after that. So this is the one that I like the most:

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Cuisineart has an awesome variety of cookware, and it was one of the most stylish and ‘in’ ones out there. Yes, the black and thick handles are outdated now. I loved the fact that when I picked up the pots, they were a decent weight and did not have a thin bottom. Also, the handles are incredibly easy to grip. Apart from that, the pots have subtle spouts (I have dealt with trying to pour something out of pots and getting the gravy all over the counter so I appreciate this. The lids are vented and are glass. Dishwasher safe as well (because of course, scrubbing dishes is NOT part of marriage – or my marriage at least!). 

This has not been bought yet, but will be, within the next couple of weeks. A close second was the Kitchenaid range. Notice the similarities between the two? Looks like I really like the whole ‘sleek handle’ thing. 

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Apart from that, I have had my knives chosen for a long time now: The Komachi set. 

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How gorgeous are they?! I absolutely fell in love with the brightness of it at first glance. And each colour indicates what the knife should be used for: green for greens, the small red one for tamatoes etc. It’ll look gorgeous on a granite countertop!

Things to buy from Delhi for Indian cooking: a flat ‘tawa’ for making rotis, a haandi set (that I spied at a dinner party and got the specifics from the Aunty’s it was – just need the small and medium size). And of course a pressure cooker. All these are available here in Toronto, but I feel that I’ll probably get a larger variety there. 

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I am yet to cook a full meal unaided. With Mom always in the kitchen with me, it’s just never happened so far and so this does make me anxious. Here’s hoping the gorgeous kitchen and cookware inspire us to cook together and make a lot of fun memories 🙂 May our kitchen be abundant with health and hearth! 🙂